How To Help Children and Youth Affected By Abandonment
By Parent; Parents; Family Members
Without help, abandonment can cause challenges with intelligence, learning, living, relationships, judgment and/or self-esteem throughout life. Abandonment can destroy faith, trust, ability to love, and willingness to communicate. It can lead to anxiety, depression or other mental illness, physical illnesses, severe antisocial behavior and violence. Adult relationships can become challenging. It can make being a parent very difficult.
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First, We Would Investigate |
Second, We Would Investigate |
For Long Term Support |
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On Our Own We Would Try: • Pets • Long Walks/Hikes • Nature • Bedtime Stories and Chats • Wholesome Pleasures • Back Rubs and Foot Massages • Replace sodas, juices, sugars, fats, fast foods with water, veggies, whole grains, protein, fruit, slow food • Less or No TV |
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For Parents: • Get help to deal with the memories of when you as a child were abandoned. Doing this will help you be there for your child or youth. • Get some help also to forgive yourself for abandoning your child or youth. • Kids like structure. Mean what you say, say what you mean, do what you say you are going to do. Get help so the child or youth has routines. • Acknowledge and express your regret that the abandonment happened. • Home schooling can help for a year or two when everything calms down. Check out: www.Childtrauma.org (Parents of Traumatized Children); http://www.traumasoma.com (very technical); www.acestudy.org. |