How To Help Children And Youth That Can’t Accept Love, Kindness, Compassion
Not being able to love and receive love and compassion can affect how a child or youth treats the world and how the child or youth is treated by others. It can cause havoc in adult relationships, accomplishment and compassion for themselves and others. Lack of acceptance of love can lead to habits of insensitivity, loneliness, isolation, breaking home, school and community rules. This can affect the child or youth’s whole future. Often, stressed-out, worried parents are not able to give children or youth the attention and love they need to develop the capacity to receive love.
This challenge can also be due to a combination of: abandonment; abuses of all kinds; not being loved and taught to love, trust and relax; living in a chaotic, unpredictable environment; being hurt emotionally and/or physically; challenges with self-esteem; lack of acknowledgment and praise; being blamed and shamed; perceptual challenges; neurological difficulties; being exposed to crazy adult behavior. It can also be due to: family patterns of relationship; exposure to environmental pollutants; nutrition difficulties. Workaholism can also contribute to this difficulty.
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On Our Own We Would Try: • Replace sodas, juices, sugars, fats, fast foods with water, veggies, whole grains, nuts, protein, fruit, slow food • Long Walks/Hikes • Bedtime Stories and Chats • Wholesome Pleasures • Back Rubs and Foot Massages • Nature • Pets • Less or No TV, Movies, Video/Computer Games |
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For Parents: • Get support from other parents and from local self-help groups on how to release guilt and how to love the child or youth who has trouble trusting and receiving love and compassion. • Find people who can help you not share your frustrations, guilt, fears and worries with your child or youth. They need continued faith and consistency. |
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Check out: www.MedLinePlus.gov; www.KidsHealth.org; www.traumasoma.com/index.shtml (very technical); www.acestudy.org. |