How To Help Children And Youth Deal With Failure
Frequent
Learning is extremely difficult without some failure. Learning involves experimenting. But without help and encouragement, frequent failure eats self-confidence. It negatively affects most children & youth physically, emotionally and socially. It can stop them from trying to succeed. It can start children trying to fail. (At least they are in control of something.) Failure is a poor motivator, success is a much better one. Continued failure can lead to very distorted ideas about self and life. Failure is often due to and complicated by a combination of: exposure to caregivers who have unresolved fears due to their failures; learning disabilities; over-expectations; inappropriate curriculum and learning tasks; nutrition imbalances; exposure to environmental pollutants.
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First, We Would Investigate |
Second, We Would Investigate |
For Long Term Support |
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On Our Own We Would Try: • Pets • Bedtime Stories and Chats • Wholesome Pleasures • Back Rubs and Foot Massages • Less or No TV, Movies, Video/Computer Games • Replace sodas, juices, sugars, fats, fast foods with water, veggies, whole grains, nuts, protein, fruit, slow food • Long Walks/Hikes • Nature |
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For Parents: • Do things together that are enjoyable. • Limit learning experiences to ones where success is assured until confidence has grown back up. • Teach perseverance by example. • Get lots of exercise. |
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Check out: www.traumasoma.com/index.shtml (very technical); www.acestudy.org. |